Pamela (Brethauer) Cox

February 17, 1959 ~ November 30, 2020 (age 61)


On November 30, 2020 Pam Cox, after a long battle with cancer, went to be with her Lord and Savior. She was peacefully at home and with her devoted husband Buddy by her side. Pam was 61 years old. A loving wife, grandma, daughter, sister and treasured friend, Pam would do anything for those she loved.

Pam was an incredible friend to many, an inspiration every day. She is a Warrior in the way she battled cancer while caring deeply for others. She was known for her infectious smile and laugh, strong intellect and her kind compassionate spirit. A one of- a- kind woman, she treated everyone with trust, love and respect.

A Colorado native, Pam grew up in the Commerce City and Thornton area.  She lived the life she loved on her horse property in Elizabeth, Colorado. She graduated from Highland High School in 1977 and was a member of the Honor Society, active in Jr. Varsity Basketball and the Drama Club. Pam graduated with an Associate’s Degree and most of her brilliant professional career was spent in the legal field.

Pam had many interests and talents, including a love for books, performance horses and their bloodlines, art, and music, and was a gifted piano player. She loved the outdoors and especially enjoyed traveling and camping.  Pam’s real passion and delicious gift was cooking. Which started with cake decorating which led her to become an accomplished gourmet cook. People cherished going to Pam’s house for dinner. Pam was more than a cook, she was a “hostess with the most-es.” Many memories were made in her kitchen with friends and family.

Pam loved owning and breeding performance horses, for barrel racing and reining. Her joy was raising them from colts and fillies to see them compete in many disciplines. She knew everything about each one of her horses, what they needed and how to take care of them both in and out of the saddle. Pam and Buddy spent treasured time with the horses and on the road watching her “babies” compete.

A gifted storyteller, Pam wrote two books about a dog named Argyle - from Scotland, based right after WW2. This incredible story written for pre-teens, details not only the relationship with all the dogs in the pack as well as their life with their Master and his household. Pam spent many hours researching and crafting accurate Scottish history, traditions and language during that time. This story was created by Pam when she was deep in her battle with cancer, and many times filled her soul with determination to continue her fight.

Pam was a devoted volunteer to The Junior League of Denver and The Elizabeth Stampede Rodeo. She would step up and help organize Marketing and Advertising goals and events, even though she was not physically able to attend. As a result, she was honored with the 2019 Elizabeth Stampede Pioneer Award, along with her husband Buddy.

Pam was born on February 17, 1959, in Denver, Colorado. Pam was preceded in death by her father, Floyd Brethauer, maternal and paternal grandparents, and several uncles. She is survived by husband F. Holland Cox “Buddy,” mother Delores Brethauer, and sister Cynthia Linker (spouse Larry Linker). Her stepdaughter Chantel Taylor and husband Rob, and their children Elle and Kellan.

A gathering in celebration of Pam’s life is planned for June 21, 2021 at the Celebration Chapel; Horan & McConaty, South Metro/Centennial; 5303 E. County Line Road (West of Holly St); Centennial, CO 80122. More information will be provided in the spring at

In lieu of flowers, please make donations to The Elizabeth Stampede Foundation in the name of Pam Cox.


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